I was reading excerpts from the book "The First Year: Crohn's Disease and Ulcerative Colitis: An Essential Guide for the Newly Diagnosed" by Jill Sklar and the first chapter is about how it is not your fault you have this disease. Despite what others are telling you, you cannot give yourself Crohn's or UC. At the end of the first chapter was a little summary in a sentence which was "It's not your fault, nor is it anyone else's fault". That really struck me as profound, as I've previously mentioned I've had people from day 1, even though I'm not technically diagnosed with anything aside from ileitis, telling me how to eat and how to cure it. Which really has discouraged me. But it is not my fault, it's not your fault either. Remember that the next time some hints that it is, because it is not.